break up advice.

Recently, I got asked this question,

“What's your advice to someone going through a breakup?”

Don’t get me wrong, I’m certainly not professing to be your relationship guru.

But, over the last few years, I’ve certainly had my own challenges with navigating romance.

And, also, I’ve been helping one of my clients overcome issues he’s had with a recent divorce.

So, it’s been a topic that’s been top of mind.

To those of you who can relate, here was my answer:

If you break up, it wasn't meant to be.

That’s the foremost principle you have to internalise.

If it was meant to be for you it would still be happening.

They didn’t recognise in you the value you have, or they are looking for something different.

And, you know what?

That’s OK.

You have to allow them to be that way, and not get stuck in negative reactions.

Forgive them for your own peace of mind.

In order to get to the real thing, you have to let go of what is not meant to be.

You can be grateful for this opportunity to be free to find the real thing that you're meant to be a part of.

At the same time, it can be beneficial to see where you might’ve misstepped as the masculine polarity within the relationship.

For example:

Were you as dominant, leading and inspiring as you could’ve been?

Were you being your best version mentally, spiritually, and physically and acting in a way that communicates this?

Or..

Had you devolved into a more needy, less masculine version of yourself that leads to the girl not respecting you and thus not being attracted to.

It may hurt to realise this somewhat, but it is always a two way street in relationships.

On some level, their needs weren’t being met by you, so they weren’t keen on continuing the relationship.

That is not to say get hung up on this stuff, but it can help to see how you could do better so that you do not make the same mistakes with a future relationship that you want to make last.

Relationship skills and awareness of our own actions is something that must be worked on and developed.

Otherwise, we will make the same mistakes, invoking the same karma and our relationships dissolve repeatedly.

Time heals all wounds and because it’s fresh it will sting, but you will attract someone eventually that makes this something you can laugh about.

Take the extra time to work on yourself and make yourself the best version you can be, to attract someone on the same page.

Levelling up yourself will mean that the level of partners and persons you have access to will increase too, which is always good when we are searching for a wife or husband.

There is a reason that you broke up, even if you can’t see it now.

Don’t search. As a man, it breeds a scarcity mindset.

Instead, focus on building yourself.

This way, you’ll develop such magnetism that she’ll come without you needing to look.

Take action and trust more.

Your Simmo.